All Wretch and No Vomit (a not-disgusting post on doing what you love)

 

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This is a really great lecture from Alan Watts, a British philosopher. It’s well worth the three minutes to watch. It brings up some points that I struggle with a lot.

Watts talks about encouraging his students and listeners to do the thing they love most, because there’s no point wasting a lifetime trying to earn enough money to be stable enough to begin doing what you love to do. Better to lead a short life doing what you love than a long life doing what you don’t.

Yet, I can’t help be a little poked by the idea that everyone could and should be doing what they enjoy first and foremost. Perhaps that’s not quite what he’s saying, but I’ve run into this implication a lot lately: the idea that life is short, so don’t waste it doing silly, trivial, hateful, or boring things.

I love that idea. It’s awesome. I’d give anything to live it out every day. But what about people in other countries, other lifestyles, of different means? I have the freedom to invest a large portion of my time in writing or playing music or taking pictures (things I love), but many people don’t. I wonder what advice starving villagers in Africa would be given?

Maybe the implication is buried under the surface that, as people with abundance, we should be giving and sharing and working toward a place where all others DO have the ability to explore their passions, not just their bare essentials.

“If you do really like what you’re doing, it doesn’t matter what it is, you can eventually become a master of it […] and then you’ll be able to get a good fee for whatever it is.”

That’s a great philosophy, but I have no idea if it’s true. I think it’s true in Western culture, and in a many other cultures, but it also rides on the freedom to invest enough time to become good at something. At the core, though, I think this is sound advice. Take every chance you have to improve at things you love and eventually you will be a master. It’s the masters who are sought for their expertise, so if you have any hope of being able to do what you love “professionally”, then do it a lot.

“Somebody’s interested in everything.”

I like that point, that there’s someone out there who will find interest in just about any conceivable topic. From those who dream of space to those who are enchanted by the countless forms of bacteria living in poo.

“It’s absolutely stupid to spend your time doing things you don’t like in order to go on doing things you don’t like.”

This is a strong point. Many people get stuck in a loop of working a mindless job, investing in a mindless existence. It’s done on the premise of needing that stability to survive or save enough or be able to afford what you need, but needs are relative. Wants are subjective. This is where it’s a good idea to re-evaluate. Are you repetitively doing something you don’t like to enable yourself to do other things you don’t like? It’s easy to say “no,” but I realized that I do this quite often. It doesn’t mean that you do it ALL the time, but it happens. It probably happens more than we’d like to admit.

“It’s all wretch and no vomit”

My favorite quote from the whole video. I’m sure my friend Jordan will hate this idea (he lives in perpetual fear of throwing up). When we are sick and we start to wretch, it is the uncomfortable preparation for releasing the poison inside us. It’s awful, it’s uncomfortable, it’s embarrassing, and we revile it. But when the release is over, we experience some degree of peace. Unfortunately in sickness this is often repeated several times to get out of us whatever was in us that shouldn’t be. This is true of life… there is a certain discomfort to be pushed through before we can release the junk and find health. At the same time, it is a necessary thing in order to get to happiness, joy, peace, or whatever term you want to use to describe a good place to be.

6 Lessons From Scrubs

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My wife and I just watched through the 8 seasons of Scrubs. I know there’s a 9th season, but I can’t really count it.

Scrubs is one of my all time favorite TV shows. I love the character development, the stories, the imagination, the development, the relationships, and the setting. I specifically relate well with J.D. because he’s very imaginative, he has a running internal monologue, he isn’t always a perfect hero, and (relevant to when I started watching the show) he struggles with his relationships. Here are a few lessons I picked up from watching through this show (for probably the 4th time).

1. “Being a man doesn’t mean being a stereotype.”

J.D. is always made fun of by Dr. Cox for being emotional, wimpy, un-manly, etc. He’s always called by girls names. He isn’t a sports fanatic like Turk. He’s not a heavy drinker, or an emotion-bottler like Dr. Cox. I’m not a big sports fan, I’m not particularly tough, I can be pretty direct about my emotions. I like relating with others. I’m a hugger.

2. “Relationships change and require maintenance.”

J.D. goes through several dating relationships. He experiences his best friend getting married and having a child. He dates his other best friend, off and on, and ends up marrying her. He struggles with having an older brother who is a loser, but ends up becoming successful. He has a child and has to work to spend enough time with his son. His mentor and father figure is constantly demeaning and distant, but eventually reveals his admiration for J.D. All of this is a result (fictional or not) of a character who refuses to give up.

3. “You can’t give up.”

Leading off from the previous lesson: J.D. doesn’t give up on his patients. Turk and Carla don’t give up one each other. Dr. Cox ends up getting back together with his ex-wife and having 2 kids. The Janitor harasses J.D. until the end of his last day. Ted keeps coming to work. Dr. Kelso goes back into medicine after retiring from Sacred Heart. J.D. ends up with the girl that the viewer always knew was the right one for him. Even when the characters do give up, it becomes an object lesson for the episode, revealing the dangers of not following through.

4. “Everyone gets burned out.”

Pretty much every major character in the show has a period where they get totally burned out, and need time to recuperate. And it’s totally okay. Their friends are there for them. Their loved ones help bear their burdens.

5. “Find the humor in life.”

Sometimes finding humor in things can be callous. Sometimes it’s insensitive. Sometimes it’s ill-timed. But it helps. For J.D., humor helps him cope. It’s a break from the horrible events of the hospital. It’s entertaining (and relatable). It helps him come up with ideas. Scrubs is a large part slapstick, unrealistic humor. That’s okay. It also has a large component of relatable humor. In the first season Dr. Cox explains that sometimes you have to make light of a situation if you ever want to be able to return to work after a bad experience.

6. “Be a dreamer.”

Find things to dream about and work toward them. Share your dreams with others. Embrace your failures and find opportunities to succeed next time.